Cheap Help With Marriage

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Rome visit, June 2008 – 57 (Photo credit: Ed Yourdon)

You may find yourself in a situation where you are wondering if your husband still loves you, and whether or not you can improve the relationship.  It is possible that you require professional help and can’t afford to spend hundreds of dollars to attend marriage counseling.  If that is the case, there is a solution for you.

A licensed marriage and family therapist has developed a program that allows you to motivate your husband to change, so that he will become more loving and more attentive to you and you don’t even have to attend therapy.  For less than $50.00 (at the time of the writing of this article), you can have the expertise of a professional backed by the latest scientific research.   You won’t find a better deal out there for what you will be getting.  In short, here are a few of the benefits you can expect as I understand it:

He will become more tender.

He will become more open.

Sexual intimacy will grow.

The emotional connection will be strong.

He will be more attentive.

He will want to spend more time with you.

He will be more loving.

There is no need for you to feel alone anymore.  With the help of this expert, you may very well be on your way to turning back the clock to the time when your relationship was happiest.  It is important that you take action today.

Don’t ignore any of the red flags!

As you know, over half of all marriages end in divorce, but that’s not all!  According to Wikipedia:

“An annual study in the UK by management consultants Grant Thornton, estimates the main proximal causes of divorce based on surveys of matrimonial lawyers.

According to this survey, husbands engaged in extramarital affairs in 75% of cases; wives in 25%. […]  53% of divorces were of marriages that had lasted 10 to 15 years, with 40% ending after 5 to 10 years. ”  No one is really safe!

Click here for the help that you need: http://tinyurl.com/marriage-solution

Bad relationships And The Solution

What makes a relationship a bad relationship?  There are a number of issues here that need discussion.  If ANY of the following descriptions fits your man, there are steps you can take today to make your relationship a good one.  But for now, let’s explore the issues:

  • He is inattentive: he doesn’t pay attention to you as he should and is spending more time with his buddies than he is at home.
  • He is cold: he lacks affection and you are starved for his touch, or at least wish he would become warmer.
  • He is detached: he doesn’t seem to be emotionally involved with you as he used to.
  • He is unapproachable: you reach out to him and you can’t seem to make an impact on the relationship.
  • He is indifferent: he is more concerned about work or his other interests than he is about you.
  • He is insensitive: he seems to be lacking in compassion for you, and is making remarks that are hurtful to you.
  • He is unloving: he just doesn’t seem to love you as much as he used to.  You feel insecure about his love.
  • You may be wondering if the relationship will end up in divorce.
  • There is tension in the household.  He gets upset for little things, and he doesn’t have a lot of patience with you.
    English: Angry woman.

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    If any of these issues are present in your relationship, my heart goes out to you.  It is time for you to take action and not suffer in this way anymore.  You are worth too much to put up with that kind of behavior.  You do know that, don’t you? You are probably angry and feel stuck in the relationship.  This could affect your health.

    While it may not be possible to save the relationship, you owe it to yourself to at least try before you get out, if that is what you want to do.  You will need the help of a professional, but may not be able to afford expensive counseling sessions, not to mention the fact that he won’t attend relationship therapy with you.

    There is one alternative.  The following link will connect you with an experienced therapist who will guide you in your journey to recovering the relationship you once had.  This is not expensive at all and will not require you to attend therapy.  Find the help you need and best of luck in your search for a better future.

    To access the help I mentioned, click here: http://tinyurl.com/out-love

     

An Alternative to Relationship Therapy

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There is a difference between relationship counseling and couples therapy.  According to Wikipedia: “Relationship counseling is the process of counseling the parties of a relationship in an effort to recognize and to better manage or reconcile troublesome differences and repeating patterns of distress. The relationship involved may be between members of a family or a couple.

Couple therapy (or relationship therapy) is a related and different process. It may differ from relationship counseling in duration. Short term counseling may be between 1 to 3 sessions whereas long term couples therapy may be between 12 and 24 sessions. An exception is brief or solution focused couples therapy. In addition, counseling tends to be more ‘here and now’ and new coping strategies the outcome. Couples therapy is more about seemingly intractable problems with a relationship history, where emotions are the target and the agent of change.

Marriage counseling or marital therapy can refer to either or some combination of the above.”

Sometimes the marriage deteriorates to the point that partners are living together as roommates without being lovers. The partners experience sadness and emptiness in the relationship.  Whatever solution you seek, the goal should be to learn relationship skills that will allow you to save the marriage.  Sometimes it may seem as if there is no point in trying to go back in time, because the relationship has been bad for a long time, but the whole point of asking for help is to develop the relationship to the point where you can be happy and fall in love once again.

Sometimes Relationship Coaches can be useful.  A relationship coach can work from his or her own experience in helping a couple find the solution to their problems.  Still, this option requires a number of sessions to work on the issues, and the expense can be considerable.

But there is an alternative,  Now women who are proactive enough to take steps before their problems become enormous, have access to a variety of options.  One of these options has nothing to do with actual counseling in family therapy.  It is now possible for you to get the benefits of marriage counseling or family therapy without the 12 to 24 sessions of therapy that would usually be required!

For more information click on this link: http://tinyurl.com/marriage-solution

This program will be useful to you because it is difficult to convince a partner sometimes to attend couples therapy.  There is no need to attend couples therapy if some basic steps are followed.  Taking specific steps to  may be enough to solve the problems in the relationship.  It does work in relationships where the hope is all but gone as well.

Is Your Marriage In Trouble? 10 Common Relationship Problems

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“Know that inside every successful person is someone who experienced failure but refused to let it define them, picked themselves up and kept going”, Judy Woodruff, Senior Correspondent, PBS

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Relationship problems… we all have them or have faced them in the past. “What is wrong?”, we may ask.  Well, there may be a number of problems in your relationship, and here are some of the most common:

1) Apathy.
After a while, we can get into a rut and start taking our partner for granted, or he may take us for granted. Relationships mean work, and if this is a problem, you’ll have to get creative in how to rekindle the romance. Try writing a love letter or calling him more often. Small shows of affection can go a long way in saving your relationship.

2) Hostility.
You or your partner may be filled with resentment or hidden anger. The past and how we deal with it is important here. Try forgiveness. Sometimes there is just no other answer to the problem.

3) Different goals.
Are you and your partner on the same wavelength? Are you moving forward to achieve common goals? If not, it is time to set some goals you and your partner can strive for together.

4) Control.
Are you trying to control your partner, only to be left feeling frustrated? Control and resistance to control are common issues in a wife-husband relationship. Remember that we usually have to let go of control if we want to have a nurturing relationship.

5) Bored with the relationship.
The love and excitement may have at an all time low, and you don’t know what to do. Try some new activities and some new ways of interacting with your partner.

6) Codependence.
How is your sense of self? Do you feel comfortable with who you are? Try working on your self-worth and self-esteem.

7) Communication.
You may want to read my article “Communication Skills Can Save Your Marriage”. Lack of good communication skills is one of the most common problems in a relationship. Follow the tips outlined in my article and you may see significant improvement.

8) Friends and Family.
Some people who really have no business interfering with your relationship may be offering input that you are better off ignoring. Although people have good intentions, only you are responsible for the relationship and your actions. Don’t allow other people’s opinions to influence your marriage or relationship with your boyfriend.

9) Lack of conflict resolution skills.
If you don’t fight fair or if your partner does not fight fair, the relationship will suffer. Take a time-out if the discussion gets heated. Focus on the positive. Stay in the present.

10) Prioritize your relationship.
If you are too busy with work or family responsibilities, make the time to spend some time with your partner talking and hugging. He may respond well to the attention, and your relationship will improve.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Would you like him to change?  Does he seem to be somewhat removed, cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving

Don’t ignore those red flags!

Women who are proactive enough to look for options before the problems they are facing turn into enormous issues, now have access to amazing tools that offer help so that divorce need not be the end result of potential relationship problemsMarriage counseling is not the only solution.  You may not even be able to drag your husband or lover to counseling sessions!

So take action today and see for yourself how your relationship can improve!

Click here to find the answer to your problem: http://tinyurl.com/loving-him

Or perhaps you just want to improve the relationship and move in for the kill so that your man loves you and adores you even more than he does now, if so:

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Click here if  you WANT TO BE ADORED by him: http://tinyurl.com/adoredbyhim

If Your Husband Has Lost Interest In You, Codependence May Be an Issue

Codependency: The Game

Codependency: The Game (Photo credit: jasonEscapist)

“Don’t assume you must struggle alone, there is a lot of grace and comfort in asking for help”. Tory Johnson, CEO, Women FH

If your husband seems to have lost interest in you may have lost touch with yourself.  A codependent person is often one who tries to please others at the expense of her sense of self.  Does that sound like you?

It is important to understand that you may be communicating to your husband a lack of a sense of self.

There are steps you can take to get back in touch with yourself and your assets.

For example, codependents lack the skills needed to communicate in a relationship… assertiveness is not one of the codependent person’s strong points.

Also, you have lost yourself in the daily routine of your life, and are not taking care of yourself. You may have gone overboard with your people pleasing characteristics and fallen into the trap of becoming less interesting and positive about your own life experiences.

I suggest you ask yourself the following questions:

Am I afraid to be fully myself? If so, why?

Have I lost some of my sense of self because I am too busy with work and other responsibilities?

Am I taking care of myself?

You may want to try writing in a journal and exploring your answers to these questions. Writing about our feelings in a journal is priceless because we can measure where we are in a situation, how we feel about it and what we may want to do about it. Then we can always go back and reflect on what we have written.

Journal writing will help you if you are having trouble making decisions that will benefit the relationship, which is a basic characteristic of codependence. This may be interfering in your relationship with your husband. Learn to recognize your own positive attributes and to work on them. Make a list of your assets. Read the list often and take steps to regain lost ground. Practice implementing your skills.

Remember that you are a capable person, and you can in fact improve your relationships. Start with appreciating yourself and build on that. You can do what is necessary to work on yourself and your relationship.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Would you like him to change?  Does he seem to be insensitive, out of reach, removed, cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving?

Don’t ignore those red flags!

FIND YOUR OWN VOICE!

Don’t let codependence be the reason your marriage or relationship falls apart.

Click this link for the answer to your problem: http://tinyurl.com/out-love

Or perhaps you just want to improve your relationship and move in for the kill so that your man loves you and adores you even more than he does now, if so:

Click here to find out WHAT MEN SECRETLY WANT: http://tinyurl.com/yourmansecret

Click here if you WANT TO BE ADORED by him: http://tinyurl.com/adoredbyhim

Important Tips On How To Resolve Conflict With Your Husband

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We all know how easily a discussion can escalate into an argument. Your wife husband relationship is one of the most important relationships in your life, and arguing is not what you want to do. Once you are arguing there is no telling where the situation is headed and how the relationship may be impacted. Following the following rules can steer you clear of major mistakes in conflict resolution:

1) Take a step back.
Before things get out of hand, excuse yourself for a minute or two. Go to the bathroom or make some other excuse to take some time to come down and stay centered. If you will just do this one thing, you may very well avoid saying something you will regret later.

2) Stay in the present.
It is common to want to bring up past mistakes or issues that you feel support your position, but by doing so you increase the likelihood that your spouse will become defensive and shut down, closing himself off to whatever you want to say next. Stay clear of the past and focus on the issue at hand.

3) Respect is king.
We all want our boundaries respected. If you say something that your husband interprets as disrespectful, anger is sure to follow. Pick your words carefully and make sure you are being sensitive to his feelings. This will make him want to listen to you.

4) Timing is important.
Don’t pick a time to discuss an issue when your husband is busy or you feel he may not be open to talking about what concerns you. He may interpret your attempt at communication as nagging. This is particularly true if you have already tried to talk to him about the issue and he has not responded.

5) Stay on point.
Try not to talk about more than one issue at a time. There may be a number of problems you want to discuss, but trying to discuss more than one thing at a time will only increase the chances of an argument because your point is not clear.

6) Agree to disagree.
You may not find a solution to the problem after a fair amount of discussion, but you will have made your point if your husband listened and you were able to say what you wanted to say. This may be enough for the time being, and pushing the issue will just make the situation worse.

7) Try to understand his point of view.
If your husband feels understood, he is much more likely to open up to you and to listen to what you have to say. He will be less defensive and you will be able to reach him. This is extremely important and one of the most effective ways for you to stay in control of the situation, avoiding an argument to escalate. Relationships take work.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Would you like him to change?  Does it seem like you are fighting more often?  Does he seem to be somewhat insensitive,  cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving?

Don’t ignore those red flags!

Women who are proactive enough to look for options before the problems they are facing turn into enormous issues, now have access to amazing tools that offer help so that divorce need not be the end result of potential relationship problems.  Marriage counseling is not the only solution.  You may not even be able to drag your husband or lover to counseling sessions!

Take action today and see for yourself how much your relationship can improve!

Click here for the answer to your problems: http://tinyurl.com/out-love

Or perhaps you just want to improve your relationship and move in for the kill so that your man loves you and adores you even more than he does now, if so:

Click here to find out WHAT MEN SECRETLY WANT: http://tinyurl.com/yourmansecret

Click here if you WANT TO BE ADORED by him: http://tinyurl.com/adoredbyhim

Does Your Husband Seem Distant? Trust May Be An Issue

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Trust Your Love (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We all know that trust is a delicate issue. It is crucial to a healthy and loving relationship, and without it is impossible for a relationship to thrive. Trusts builds emotional security and it deepens the bonds between individuals. It also fosters personal growth and stability.

Here are a few tips on how you can regain lost ground in your relationship with your husband, and get the trust that he actually desires to give you. These tips work, because they have worked for me.

1) Support him in his social interactions.
It may not be fun to support your husband on pursuing his own interests with friends or other family members, but by doing so you are fostering trust and increasing the likelihood that he will want to trust you as well.

2) Offer him unconditional love.
If your husband feels he cannot really be himself, he will not trust you. It may be difficult to accept some of his habits and ways of doing things, but if he does not feel he has your support in being himself, he will pull back from you.

3) Get comfortable with your feelings.
Past experiences may make it hard for you to trust your husband. If he feels you are pulling back and not talking about your own issues, he will be less likely to trust you.

4) Build his self-esteem.
Try to focus on the positive and to compliment him on his achievements, even if they are only small achievements. If you build him up, he will feel that he can trust you because you are on his side. He must believe that you are truly on his side in order to trust you.

5) Don’t judge.
Do your best to say nothing when you really want to tell him that what he is doing is wrong or you want to make a black and white statement about his character. If he feels judged, he will not trust you and may judge you in return, which will only make you not trust him… and so the vicious circle goes on and on.

6) Try to be fair.
There are many reasons why sometimes we may try to color a situation to our advantage instead of disclosing the whole truth. If your husband catches you in a “white lie” he may doubt the sincerity of what you say in other aspects of the relationship.

Ask yourself: Does your husband or lover seem distant?  Would you like him to change? Does it seem like the romance is gone from the relationship?  Does he seem to be insensitive, out of reach, removed, cold, detached, indifferent,  or unloving?

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have him be crazy about you? Have him be enchanted with you… to have him cherish you, think the world of you,  be close to you, always attentive, considerate, loving you, treasuring you?  IT CAN HAPPEN! Take action and see for yourself!  How?

Click here for the answer you that has been awaiting you:  http://tinyurl.com/out-love

Or perhaps you just want to improve your relationship and move in for the kill so that your man loves you and adores you even more than he does now, if so:

Or click here to find out WHAT MEN SECRETLY WANT: http://tinyurl.com/yourmansecret

Click here if you WANT TO BE ADORED by him: http://tinyurl.com/adoredbyhim